Shout out to my boss Dennis Edward Aboagye for letting me have this book. He had just bought the book but he let me have it anyway. You’re a real one boss!
This book is in the known and has been trending for a while. A bandwagon I actually for one of the firsts wanted to jump on. I promise this is not a book review, more like a prologue into the book and my favorites from just the first chapter.
“The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck” by Mark Manson is a beautiful book, more than meets eye. It is triggering and entertaining. It is like talking to your reflection and assessing your life. Each line perhaps resonates with a time of a particular state in your life. This book teaches how to take inventory of your life and scrub out all but the most important items. You’d feel like you already know what the author is about to say and then he mesmerizes you with depth.
Chapter one of this book which is the focus of the write up is titled “Don’t Try“. In the most organic sense, don’t try. It states the background of a man named Charles Bukowski an alcoholic, womanizer, gambler, you name it, who probably is the last person on earth to look forward to for life advice and in essence the perfect place to start. He had always wanted to be a publisher but kept getting turned down. Thirty years went by with meaningless blur of life until one day he got a contract to begin his real first shot. But it wasn’t fueled by constantly pursuing it he just left it. His stories were the bread and butter of cultural narrative. What people might term never give up. But he actually did not try. He knew his situation. The genius in him worked over odds when he stopped overthinking and worrying extremely. He stopped trying. His success was birth from failure.
Our culture today is obsessively focused on unrealistically positive expectations. Normally fixating on the things we lack. Mark Manson addresses that it lasers in on what you perceive your personal shortcomings and failures are and emphasizes them for you.
The key to good life is to have a scale of preference. Prioritize. Giving a f*ck about less, giving a f*ck about what is true and immediate and important.
“The feed back loop from hell“. Scenario. You’re so worried about doing the right thing all the time that you become worried about how much you’re worrying. ( Well there’s a number of us) Or you feel so guilty for every mistake you make that you begin to feel guilty about how you’re feeling. Sound familiar? “That’s the feedback loop from hell ” Calm down amigo, this is part of the beauty of being human.
The loop has become a borderline epidemic, making many of us over stressed, overly neurotic and overly self-loathing. The moments of non-fuckery are the moments that most truly define our lives. Allow us to be who we really are meant to be. To not give a f*ck is to stare down at life’s most terrifying and difficult challenges and take action.
There is a subtle art of not giving a f*ck. And though the concept might sound ridiculous, what the author talks about is essentially learning how to focus and prioritize your thoughts effectively- how to pick and choose what matters to you and what does not matter to you based on finely honed personal values. This is incredibly difficult but totally doable. ( I flinched a little but I guess it actually is doable) It takes a lifetime of practice and discipline to achieve.
Regularly failing. But most importantly, learning and unlearning through to eventually succeed.
“In life, we have a limited amount of f*cks to give. So you must choose your f*cks wisely. This manifesto is a refreshing slap in the face for all of us, so that we can start to lead more contented, grounded lives”.

